Social Anxiety pt 2

I had an incident of anxiety the other day when I went to the bank. It made me start to think about why I started to feel nervous about going to the bank. It's not a fear of the bank being robbed, which is what Miss Goofy suggested. It's a fear of there not being sufficient funds for the check and the ensuing looks from the tellers.

When my ex-husband and I divorced, he sent me $50 child support twice a month. When he remarried, she took over sending the payments. I would receive the check and walk the half mile to the bank and cash it. Or attempt to cash the check. More often than not, I would be told there weren't sufficient funds to cover the check. That was bad enough but the tellers would look at me like I was a criminal. Hey, I'm not the one writing bad checks, that's your customer. Consequently, I learned to call the bank and verify the funds before dragging a 2 year old out into 100 degree weather to walk a half mile to the bank. Eventually, she started sending a check and when I called and said, "Yeah, there's no money in the account to cash this," she would Western Union the money to me. That would cost her an extra $12-13. It would have been simpler to just make sure she could cover the check, but hey it wasn't my problem. I think she thought that it cost me money to receive the money. For the record, it doesn't.

I was able to go cash a check from my dad the other day. I had bought a money order and sent it off for something for him and he had me just write a check to myself to reimburse me. I hate doing that, but at least I knew the check was fine.

So, that's one example of an anxious moment for me. I'll post more when I think of them.